forget about it. Happiness arrives when we let it go. As a psychiatrist has expressed it, “If you observe a really happy man, you will find him building a boat; writing a symphony; educating his son; growing double dahlias in his garden; or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator.”11 Happiness is not to be found because it is not an essence but a property; it is not a substance but a possible